Friday, February 25, 2011

10 Reasons Why Women Should Avoid Gossip

It can be very tricky when it comes to gossip.  Oftentimes, I can start out with pure intentions... "please pray for so and so" but then I find myself getting caught up in the drama of it all.  Pride sets in.  If you notice yourself anticipating telling that friend something about someone else, BEWARE!  Notice the red flags of conviction and don't get caught up in the thrill of your own pride.  It will only bring destruction.  Heed the truths below. 

10 Reasons Why Women Should Avoid Gossip

1. Seek To Be A Faithful Friend:  Proverbs 11:13- A talebearer revealeth secrets: but he that is of a faithful spirit concealeth the matter.  Are you a faithful friend?  Do you have other's best interests at heart?

2. A Wise Tongue Is Healthy:  Proverbs 12:18- There is that speaketh like the piercings of a sword: but the tongue of the wise is health.  A gossip is very unbecoming.  If you are known to be a gossip, change your ways.  It will hurt your health otherwise.

3. It Wounds On The Inside: Proverbs 18:8- The words of a talebearer are as wounds, and they go down into the innermost parts of the belly.  It will not only hurt the person you are gossiping about, but others and yourself!

4. You Will Reap The Consequences:  Proverbs 18:21- Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.  Your words will come back to bite you.  Choose words of grace and mercy.

5. It Will Give You A Troubled Life:  Proverbs 21:23- Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue keepeth his soul from troubles.  You can avoid trouble by not getting caught up in gossip (as the source, AND the receiver of the gossip).

6. God Says Not To!  Proverb 25:9-  Debate thy cause with thy neighbour himself; and discover not a secret to another.  God's instruction is clear here.  It is for our benefit and His glory.

7. Stop Strife Before It Begins:  Proverbs 26:20- Where no wood is, there the fire goeth out: so where there is no talebearer, the strife ceaseth.  If you don't provide the wood, the fire can't start.

8. Speak Kindness:  Proverbs 31:26- She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.  The godly woman will speak words of pure kindness. 

9. Peace Results In Pleasant Relationships: Psalm 133:1- Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!  Avoiding gossip brings pleasantness and peace.

10. You Will Be Blessed: Matthew 5:9- Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.  God will bless you for your obedience.



  1. Oh my goodness Traci, this post touches home for me in so many ways. I have been tremendously hurt by the power of gossip. Gossip was thrown at me to the point where my children were taken from me. The legal system believed the gossip over the truth. It took me a year to clear that gossip and prove myself innocent, along with tons of money. What a rough year....And the woman that did this to me, she claims to be a Christian. I sit in the same sanctuary with her every Sunday. I don't think she has been listening to the sermons. What do you think?
    If you don't mind, I would like to share your post with others.

  2. I am doing a study on the book of James and right now on the verses of taming the tongue. Gossip really does hurt, but seems so easy to get caught up in. I liked your point about sharing a prayer request and then it turning into gossip as well. If we aren't careful sometimes our best intentions turn into out of control speaking.
    Thanks for sharing the 10 points and backing up with scripture it is always nice to know where to turn. And great to have the resources when sharing.

  3. Great post Traci, I've seen how gossip hurts people and spreads like wildfire causing destruction to everyone in its path! Thanks for sharing this.

  4. You are so right, dear Tracy!
    I`m also studying the Book of James with the Good Morning Girls and it is our theme of the week, to tame our tongue.

    Greetings from Germany!

  5. Thank you so much for your blog today. I just wanted to let you know that I referenced your post in my blog today. I hope you don't mind.
    (If you'd like to see it.)

  6. Such truth in you words today! Thank you so much for sharing this. I am going to share it on my Facebook page. What a beautiful reminder to look at the power of our words and pain our words can cause!!

    Building Home with Him,

    Mary Joy

  7. I think we all know what we should do and say, but sometimes we stray. Thanks for the reminder to "bridle our tongues" in order to preserve the dignity of ourselves and those around us.

  8. This is the best post I read today! we ought to be very careful, and not be busybodies and gossiping! I wonder if we as homemakers, could be better with this issue if, we would be busier at home dong our job, rather then wondering about looking for what others are doing???

  9. Now that's what I call words worth repeating!

  10. Praise God for your truthful post! So encouraging in "not gossiping"

  11. You Sweet Dear! This is an awesome post that has stirred many hearts. May God bless your socks off for being bold enough to share these truths.

  12. Thank you for the reminder. Gossip is rampant on my college campus. We forget how much damage it can do.

  13. Yeah, it's quite easy to get roped into it and add just that amount of fuel to the gossip news. It's the same when telling lies, right? So and so person is this and that when in reality, those supposed "facts" were untrue. If one person told a lie and it was repeated through the grapevine so frequently it turns into a "truth" much to the detriment of the person at the end of the gossip.

  14. Thank you, Traci, for this post. I agree, gossip infects relationships and has the potential to really hurt others. As women we must be careful and examine our motives prior to saying anything to anyone about anyone. If the Holy Spirit gives the go ahead, then share innocently and honestly. If not, we must let the information die on the vine.

  15. AWESOME! I am a Children's Youth Pastor of 15 years and have seen gossip devastate youth groups and churches! Thanks for posting this!

    Anyways, my wifes name is Annette (pastors wife)and she just opened her blog to public setting as she wants to be an encouragement and blessing to people. I was trying to be an encouragement to her by asking if you would be willing to swing by and say hi as she does not know many people in the blog world? Thank you for considering. Her blog is

    Thank You,
    Rodney(Annette's husband)

  16. Very good, I'm sure we all needed to read that.


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